They’re right. It can be.
Indeed, many of the most widely used meditation techniques — you’ll probably agree — do sound rather monotonous.
Repeat a mantra, over and over again, inside your head.
Scan the body from head to toe, and back again, ad nauseam.
And then there’s the common refrain: “Pay attention to the breath, and when the mind wanders, gently bring it back.”
This, in my opinion, is a recipe for boredom. Not that there’s anything wrong with focusing on the breath (or boredom), which — under the right conditions — can be both beneficial and profoundly relaxing. However, the instruction “pay attention to the breath…” allows little room for creativity. Instead, it turns you into a robot. If this, do that. Meditation becomes a repetitive task, when it could be so much more.
Meditating with interest
Thankfully, it’s okay to use your intelligence when you meditate. You don’t have to follow a teachers’ recommendations to the letter. You can adapt the instructions. You can be playful and creative. And you don’t have to return your attention to the breath. That’s just one possibility — and not necessarily the best. It often results in little more than frustration and disappointment.
So, instead of paying attention to the breath (as though it were a business transaction or a job), consider the ways in which you could savour, explore or experiment with it.
Similarly, instead of turning the breath into an anchor, treat it like a resting place, where you can pause from time to time. Also, consider how you use the breath in daily life: smelling your morning coffee, sighing when you need to let go, yawning as you wind down towards sleep. You don’t need to smell, sigh or yawn continuously — just when it’s appropriate.
In other words, think about how you meditate, rather than what you should focus upon. Experiment with the attitudes that Bill Morgan recommends in his book The Meditator’s Dilemma. These include playfulness and delight, gratitude and wonder, warmth and tenderness. Struggle and strain, you will note, are not included.
An experimental meditation process
Let’s take the breath as an example, and see how we can make meditating on it more engaging.
Firstly, don’t think of meditation as a test to see how well you can stay focused. You can gently hold the breath in mind, or let in dance in awareness — a little more present than usual. You don’t have to block anything out. Thoughts, sounds, emotions, memories, plans, discomfort, relaxation: these can all be welcomed.
Then, at those times when you naturally become aware of the breath, see if you can notice what part of the breath you find most satisfying. Do you prefer the inhalation or the exhalation? If it’s the out-breath, is it the moment the out-breath starts, or somewhere else? How does one breath differ from the next? Imagine that you can zoom in on one tiny part of the breath, and get to know it.
Or feel the breath in different places:
- gently undulating deep in the belly
- swirling in and out of the lungs
- floating up and down the length of the spine
- playing delicately across the upper lip.
Or in different ways:
- like a wave ebbing and flowing through the body
- like a balm spreading across the neck and down the shoulders
- like a massage, gently working through areas of tension
- like a warmth or glow, radiating outwards
As Lorin Roche says in Breathtaking, a whole world of sensory experience gradually unfolds:
- the silky sensation of air flowing in and out of the body
- the rhythm of the breath
- the smell of the air, flowers or someone cooking nearby
- the motion and undulation of the body
- the quiet sound of air whispering across the vocal chords
Playing with the breath
Meditation doesn’t need to be nearly so serious and dour as it’s sometimes made out to be. Approach it with a sense of play, like a child at the beach, or a kitten with a ball of wool.
I like to play with location and scope. I might start just by noticing the breath as it moves across my upper lip. Then I might check to see whether it flows more freely through one nostril. I might ask myself:
- What is it like to feel the breath flowing down the spine from face to belly?
- What is it like to feel the breath flowing up the spine, from coccyx to navel?
- How far does the breath want to move?
- Can I feel the breath in the lower back, the armpits, the pelvis? Where else?
- How do the ribs respond to each breath?
- Can I let the entire body expand and contract as I breathe?
I also like to imagine the breath flowing through the pores of my skin, such that every cell is oxygenated on the inhalation, and every cell relaxes as I breathe out — almost as though air flows through the body like a breeze through the leaves of a tree.
Experimenting with the breath
You can also notice how the breath affects your mind, mood and body.
What happens when you focus on letting the out-breath be long, slow and soft? What happens when you breathe fully, opening up the lungs and chest? What happens when the breath becomes extremely subtle? What happens when you make the breath sharp, clear, easy to feel and follow?
Donna Farhi invites us to rediscover the wonders and freedom of unrestricted breathing (by asking similar questions) in The Breathing Book. She notes that most of us breathed with complete ease during infancy, but unconsciously altered these natural rhythms in response to stress and other demands in our lives.
Another teacher suggests that you try to breathe so softly that an imagined piece of duck down resting on your upper lip remains undisturbed. This is meditation as play. It’s an invitation to use your imagination and creativity. It permits you to have fun meditating.
Caring for the breath
If you’re in a serious mood, you may prefer not to have so much fun, in which case you could care for the breath instead. You might imagine it as a living thing that you nurture within. Can you let the breath purr like a cat? Can you let it flow, or flower, or vibrate? Can you feed it with tenderness or appreciation, checking in with it like a doting parent? Can you gently tease more beauty, more pleasure, or more strength from it?
How does this feel different from simply counting the ins and outs? When play is permitted, your options expand. Your interest is engaged. The breath comes alive. Focus becomes an inevitable and effortless byproduct, rather than a source of struggle, strain and self-condemnation. Distractions become invitations, and failures become opportunities for new adventures.
Meditation doesn’t have to be boring. It doesn’t require rote adherence to some arbitrary instruction. It doesn’t have to be mechanical and monotonous. In The Book of Secrets, Osho makes this same point, inviting meditators to experience and experiment with everyday phenomenon and to trust in your own capacity to access meditative states.
Meditation is much easier — and far less boring — when you adopt this kind of playful, exploratory attitude. At least, it is for me.
What a great article, Matt. I realised that I tend to use guided meditation tracks on Insight Timer because it helps me to stay focused and prevents boredom. This morning I applied some of your suggestions on exploring the breath in different ways and found it very practical and useful. A much better meditation! Thank you for your inspiring suggestions. ?
Thanks Liz. That’s great to hear.
I like this so much! I have been working my way through a meditator’s dilemma and enjoying it in a similar sense. Whilst reading the book, and after a points I had taken away from class, I had starting to question the benefit of discipline from the method we had been discussing. In my path of meditation, I have really appreciated meditation as a way to create a discipline in my mind.
I really appreciate the notion of acknowledging a stray thought coming to my attention while I am trying to focus on something, acknowledging it and allowing it to gently leave and then “returning to the breath” or whatever the point of focus was.
Whether is was my perception, I feel as though the discussion in class, and some of the texts I was reading was, getting away from that sense of discipline somewhat, which is a huge advantageous part of meditation for me.
But with this I am starting to tie it together I feel. Focusing on the breath is still a valid exercise and we are still training discipline into our minds, we are just doing it with a positive enthusiasm, a kindness and engaging our minds rather than it being a timed grind. That’s at least my take on it at the moment.
Thank you
Thanks for your comment Tim. I agree with your take on it.
Discipline can be taken on in various ways.
Sometimes we try to be disciplined by holding ourselves to unrealistic standards or by trying to achieve the impossible. This is discipline as an imposition; the headmaster’s cane (or the timed grind).
But it can also be generated through tenderness and love, through interest, curiosity and gentle encouragement.
In the latter case, it may not feel like discipline, but the benefits of discipline (commitment, focus etc.) are still available.
It’s certainly an interesting area for exploration.
I’m curious to know what you think the benefits of discipline have been for you.
I think the discipline we are discussing really became incredibly advantageous to me when I starting incorporating mindfulness practices into my life as well as meditation.
I felt as though I had little control over my reactivity, and little control over the negative, over analytical thoughts that would come to me.
The mindfulness practice of stopping and asking myself what emotion i am feeling and starting to analyse why I am feeling that emotion and if it necessary or productive etc really helped me. Similarly the process of investigating the negative recurring thoughts started to give me an understanding of why they were occurring and a little control over them and kindness towards them.
The discipline of meditation allowed me to notice when those thoughts entered, focus down on and investigate and be curious with those thoughts, be able to let them go and feel in more control. And having that control, drastically reduced the “haunting” feeling they would have on me. They would not be often and unannounced, they would be recognized and friendly welcomed and debunked.
All of those aspects of mindfulness and the discipline my meditation path has provided me I see as crucial parts of my “toolkit” for daily mental processing.
Thanks for taking the time to reply Tim. That all makes perfect sense. It sounds like when you use the word discipline it means something like ‘habit’.